Christmas can be one of the happiest or one of the saddest times of the year. We see the happy parts because they are everywhere. The brightly colored decorations, the Christmas pageants, the special gifts, the family gatherings, the music. But we don't necessarily see the grief and loneliness that are also a part of the season for many. I've been thinking a lot about these ups and downs because of two recent events.My cousin, TJ, died two weeks ago. TJ had chronic health problems that had been spiraling downwards for the last few months; however, she remained determined to live life on her terms so she was at home when she tragically died in a fire. A shock to everyone, especially her siblings who had been helping her through these difficult times. This is going to be a very difficult Christmas for them, but they are focusing on the fact that TJ is at peace now and with those who have gone before her.
On the other end of the spectrum, our family is celebrating the birth of Baby Girl. Baby Girl was born a few days ago to my niece and her husband. The baby is healthy and just about perfect in every way. In fact, she has already been declared by her grandparents as smarter and prettier than anyone else around. The whole family is celebrating.
It doesn't get more basic than that--a death and a birth. Sadness and joy.
I don't really know what else to say other than, I know am not alone in these bittersweet feelings. If you are feeling sadness and loneliness this season, I hope you also get a chance to find some joy whether it is as big as celebrating a birth or as routine as enjoying a warm bed.
