tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post6761591263375825009..comments2024-03-28T22:03:06.328-04:00Comments on Live and Learn-Toss and Turn: B is for Brothers--or lack thereofLive and Learnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-13440869891002759552016-04-04T15:31:51.262-04:002016-04-04T15:31:51.262-04:00Mine would all love to have long hair, but unfortu...Mine would all love to have long hair, but unfortunately inherited the hair style genetically passed on by my dad's family. On the upside,bald heads require very little shampoo.Anne in the kitchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01533249631969001657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-34673446794011114362016-04-02T19:04:35.921-04:002016-04-02T19:04:35.921-04:00Good point about the hair. My sons' hair alway...Good point about the hair. My sons' hair always seemed to be sticking out somewhere even if it had just been combed, but that didn't matter to them or me. But we didn't have any long hair or braids to deal with. Theo has long hair now, but that's his business and problem.Live and Learnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-9595843507216354602016-04-02T18:50:56.167-04:002016-04-02T18:50:56.167-04:00I had only 1 sister so I can't say but I think...I had only 1 sister so I can't say but I think a brother would have had more personal freedom. My dad was one of those progressive (for the time thinkers) and insisted I take all the higher maths I could. I was pretty good at it but hated it, so I obviously did not even consider a math major. <br />I only had sons and like you, I was not thrilled with the cute clothing inequity, though my sons did wear smocked clothes and english sandals for "dressy" occasions. (Yes I am a product of the deep south) I am not sure what I would have done differently if I had daughters, but I am kind of glad I never had to "do" hair.Anne in the kitchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01533249631969001657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-79156090489192639812016-04-02T18:15:55.607-04:002016-04-02T18:15:55.607-04:00I'm happy that things are good with both broth...I'm happy that things are good with both brothers. It wasn't their fault that they were treated differently than you, but in some families, it's hard to get past that.Live and Learnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-14877452977323663622016-04-02T17:22:34.188-04:002016-04-02T17:22:34.188-04:00I have good relations with both brothers. Wasn...I have good relations with both brothers. Wasn't their fault. I don't get to see them as much as I'd like, however.Strayerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08124298302997708537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-60627418702693064722016-04-02T14:58:53.667-04:002016-04-02T14:58:53.667-04:00It will be interesting to see how things evolve wi...It will be interesting to see how things evolve with your son. Until I had kids, I was all about equality for boys and girls and the only differences between them were social conditioning. Well, I don't quite believe that any more. While there should definitely be equal opportunities for everyone, I think there are some innate differences between boys and girls. (Although individual differences, override everything.) In fact, I have a series on my blog, Boys vs. Girls, giving examples of this and I get total agreement that there are some basic differences.Live and Learnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-26881724335441024472016-04-02T14:17:14.695-04:002016-04-02T14:17:14.695-04:00My family growing up had me as oldest, my brother ...My family growing up had me as oldest, my brother in the middle, and my sister as the youngest. Honestly, I think the age order was more important than the genders for us-though my sister and I were pitted against each other like crazy for whatever reason. <br /><br />My husband was one of five (girl-boy-girl-girl-boy) and he says he only remembers different "accommodations" being made for the girls, like campgrounds with showers sort of thing but otherwise not a lot of difference in how he was treated (though he was the spoiled, surprise baby boy so that might affect his opinion-in my opinion!). <br /><br />Now I have a boy for my first child, he turned 1 in February, and I'm not sure where life will take us as a family but I plan to give me kids the best sense of equality I can. <br /><br />Good post :) Happy A to Z!HBFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10338445335742876196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-27171087917622162032016-04-02T10:42:20.029-04:002016-04-02T10:42:20.029-04:00It's interesting how we perceive different thi...It's interesting how we perceive different things. I haven't thought that there is an anti-women political climate. When I have heard someone talk about a woman candidate that they don't like, they always discuss issues. However, I know that I would be naive to think that gender doesn't play a part in how people vote.<br /><br />I wonder how many privileges your brother got because he was a boy and how many he got because he was younger. My older sisters claim the last two of us got away with many more things than they did. I think parents naturally relax more with each kid. <br /><br />How gender affects how we treat people is all very interesting to think about, but very complicated with perceptions, personalities, and social norms all playing a part.Live and Learnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-40205717072012929812016-04-02T10:08:01.495-04:002016-04-02T10:08:01.495-04:00I grew up in the 60s and 70s too. I had a brother-...I grew up in the 60s and 70s too. I had a brother--five years younger. He had more rights and opportunities than did I, but my dad did push the idea of college. <br /><br />I have only boys, but I can tell you I still see boys privileged over girls. Things haven't changed that much and are getting worse for girls. Look at the anti-women political climate. It's scary. Glenda Funkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07020745976555044975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-13288510450769161982016-04-02T09:26:11.996-04:002016-04-02T09:26:11.996-04:00I have another friend who had a similar arrangemen...I have another friend who had a similar arrangement in her household. She still has a lot of baggage from it many years later. I really can't understand the different treatments in your family. It goes way beyond gender roles. Luckily, with at least one of your brothers, you still seem to have a decent relationship. <br /><br />Live and Learnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-5543053400394436332016-04-02T08:59:20.650-04:002016-04-02T08:59:20.650-04:00I have brothers. They were treated much different...I have brothers. They were treated much differently growing up. I had to do household chores for no allowance, while they did get allowances for doing chores and did not have to help in the house. I had to work for my father's business, for nothing, while my brothers got summer jobs that paid, then got clothes, even cars, while my poverty began as a child, working for my father and learning that women were not equal.Strayerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08124298302997708537noreply@blogger.com