tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post621444830698409096..comments2024-03-28T08:48:16.783-04:00Comments on Live and Learn-Toss and Turn: My father's boatLive and Learnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-46165038454661103392016-08-24T18:50:04.134-04:002016-08-24T18:50:04.134-04:00I'm starting to sort and give away things so w...I'm starting to sort and give away things so we won't have to move them. However, the rocks are going with us even though they stay packed away in the basement. Crazy some may say, but not as far as I'm concerned. Maybe I'll even had a rotating display in the new house. :)Live and Learnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-34023378315762843272016-08-24T18:09:03.793-04:002016-08-24T18:09:03.793-04:00Not really, as the stuff we needed to clean out wa...Not really, as the stuff we needed to clean out was really, I guess, the detritus of dad's hobbies, projects and "what might be's". Lots and lots of old boards, planks, and "pieces." Some of the stuff could have found good homes via Craig's List, but it was too much hassle for mom. We did have good luck putting the "useful" stuff (and I needed help from my wife on that) out in front with large "free" signs. That seemed to work real well. One young couple from a side road down the main road a bit, took two old doors for their old farmhouse that is very similar to mom's. One old-timer scarfed up 8 old, raggedy storm windows just like that. It was fun meeting the folks who stopped by. Mom was greatly relieved by the whole thing. Heck, I even managed to ditch some of my rock collection from my undergrad days (but saved the good stuff). Now, I just have to figure out what to do with the old vintage Canadian wooden snowshoes my uncle bequeathed to me! They still hang in the garage.Mike H.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-19189709740453577882016-08-24T17:27:02.450-04:002016-08-24T17:27:02.450-04:00If we didn't live on opposite sides of the cou...If we didn't live on opposite sides of the country, you could have had the boat because I know that you would have really liked it. <br /><br />That's a very sweet story about your ice ax. Speaking of ice axes, a few years ago, my husband climbed Mt. Hood with some friends. He almost most it to the top before the weather turned nasty and made his party retreat.Live and Learnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-2407914733345100792016-08-24T12:31:41.592-04:002016-08-24T12:31:41.592-04:00I would have loved that boat. It can be hard to ...I would have loved that boat. It can be hard to part with things that have memories attached. I was trying to raise money recently, by selling some of my things, for cat food. I put my old ice ax I used in climbing in 80's mostly. I'd held onto it because of the memories it holds. It was worth very little at this point, in an age of lightweight alloys metals and slick gear. So what happens? My cousin buys it, pays with a donation to my nonprofit that is way more than its worth, then tells me to keep it. Brought me to tears. So the ice ax stays with me.Strayerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08124298302997708537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-65474086125189522222016-08-24T06:20:59.102-04:002016-08-24T06:20:59.102-04:00I think if we had left the boat at my mothers hous...I think if we had left the boat at my mothers house we would have been able to find someone to take it. In fact, my father had another boat he stored at a friend's house that we gave to him. But at the time, it was the right thing to do to bring it here.<br /><br />Is that why you went to help your mother clean out the garage? So she wouldn't give away something like your father's canoe? As our parents age, it is not an easy time of life for many reasons.Live and Learnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-31064272946898247042016-08-24T06:14:14.672-04:002016-08-24T06:14:14.672-04:00Yes they have titles, and depending on the state y...Yes they have titles, and depending on the state you live in, you have to pay taxes on them.Live and Learnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-76933431846506094772016-08-24T01:36:14.339-04:002016-08-24T01:36:14.339-04:00What a beautiful post. I can totally see why it wa...What a beautiful post. I can totally see why it was hard to get rid of, but you're totally right, your father would have wanted to take care of your mother. And I had NO IDEA that there was such a thing as a title for a boat! Learn something new every day.EcoCatLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-84957778900067329692016-08-23T23:01:34.519-04:002016-08-23T23:01:34.519-04:00My dad had the same boat and, like your dad, loved...My dad had the same boat and, like your dad, loved to fish on various lakes in upstate NY. Luckily, my mom, who is a lot less sentimental about things like this, than I am (with similar feelings like you), found someone to take it (she was probably at an advantage over you by living in a pretty rural area where lots of people still fish and there are plenty of lakes to fish on). I was really bummed out, however, when she got rid of dad's canoe to a family friend. I was upset because she just went and did it without asking me about it. BUT, living 3000 miles away in a place where there aren't a lot of canoeing opportunities tempered my feelings about it, I really couldn't complain as what was I really going to be able to do about it, anyway. I still, though, have a lot of pangs about that. I know they're unrealistic, but they are there, none-the-less. I think mom's might not quite get the longtime father-son relationship that's tied up into something like that.Mike H.https://www.flickr.com/photos/79475348@N03/albumsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-4353052708651114482016-08-23T14:02:39.282-04:002016-08-23T14:02:39.282-04:00The scrap metal place would take the boat if it we...The scrap metal place would take the boat if it were over 8 years old--which it was. It was maybe 25 years old. Maybe the charities are dealing with newer things and wouldn't accept anything that old. But they all have to be careful to watch out for stolen goods. You have to show a driver's license at the scrap place to drop anything off.Live and Learnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-88144651165048376002016-08-23T13:59:03.148-04:002016-08-23T13:59:03.148-04:00We're lucky to have had the example of the lon...We're lucky to have had the example of the long time devotion that our parents had for each other.Live and Learnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-30246255739009779432016-08-23T13:51:45.856-04:002016-08-23T13:51:45.856-04:0063 years!!! Amazing. That was some powerful writi...63 years!!! Amazing. That was some powerful writing today, reflecting powerful emotions. I'm glad you were able to find a solution that allowed your mom to receive some proceeds from the boat. I'm flabbergasted that the charities couldn't accept it as a donation without the title but that the scrap metal business could. It just seems so wrong, somehow, not that you sold it, but that the charities couldn't accept it. Nathaliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01654610295436446555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-84633617578121530842016-08-23T08:59:21.487-04:002016-08-23T08:59:21.487-04:00That is a very sweet post. My folks were married ...That is a very sweet post. My folks were married 63 years also. I understand the devotion and the unspoken desire your dad would have about your mother's care.Anne in the kitchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01533249631969001657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-83511091774794765942016-08-23T08:01:55.462-04:002016-08-23T08:01:55.462-04:00My parents were married for 63 years and figured o...My parents were married for 63 years and figured out what worked for them. Although they had different ways of doing things, they were devoted to each other.Live and Learnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493777474885053903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6315851262843522940.post-34319685909646123732016-08-23T07:31:32.086-04:002016-08-23T07:31:32.086-04:00Live and learn, that's so touching. I think yo...Live and learn, that's so touching. I think you're right on what your father would want more than anything. It sounds like they had a lovely marriage.Lilihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13292553654219380455noreply@blogger.com